We attract what we fear
The happiness series part three
By Elise Smith
The things we most love and most fear will tend to occupy our thoughts much of the time, so will we tend to attract those very things.
Have you ever totally ruined a new suit of clothes the first time you wore them? Just as you were thinking to yourself, “I don’t want to dirty this lovely new shirt of mine”, your ballpoint pen was leaking blue ink into your top pocket.
If we say to our mind, “I don’t want “A” to happen, we will gravitate toward “A”. Our mind cannot move away from anything, only toward something.
A magazine recently published an article about a New Yorker by the name of Pete Torres who, at the time of publication of the story, had been mugged fifteen this year. This, we believe, maybe some dubious kind of record. While Pete proclaims that he is doing nothing to precipitate these attacks, he is, in fact, helping to bring misery upon himself. His secret passion is watching horror movies. He spends all his spare time loading up on stabbings and muggings and robberies. He fills his mind with horror stories, obviously enjoys being “scared”, and wonders why life on the streets of New York is one long horror story.
We can see the same principle in working with poverty and ill health. If we talk about, read about, and think about “nasties”, we will subconsciously if not consciously gravitate toward them. Concentrate on what you want. Most people stagger through life, bemoaning what they don’t have and talking about what they don’t want. We must focus on what we want.
The ”fear of loss” principle is when we fear losing something, we place ourselves in a position to lose it. This applies to husbands, girlfriends, wallets, tennis matches, and stereo systems. “Concentrate on and enjoy what you have. Don’t dwell on losing what you have.”
Dwelling on your fears will bring them upon you. The principle of attracting what we fear is actually quite wonderful. It means that we are challenged to confront fear and, hence, to improve ourselves. How else would we grow if things we feared ran away from us? How else would we develop if we never faced the things we feared? If we get the idea that the loss of something will wreck our lives, and dwell on that thought, then the universe may decide to prove to us that we can live without it! Circumstances assist us in learning about and strengthening ourselves. We need to enjoy what we have right now and live right now. Fearing loss is not in the now. Fearing loss is living in the future.
When we confront our fears, they disappear
Another fascinating principle is that often, when we finally develop the courage to meet a problem head-on, the problem disappears and we don’t have to face it.
Often we find that once we decide to face a fear, fear evaporates. How often have you found that thinking about it was so much more painful than doing it?