Ever heard, “Your teenage is going to be the best phase of your life!”? Many adults exclaim this with such great enthusiasm as if they are one hundred percent sure that your teenage would show you the brightest phase of life. It indeed does too, but sometimes, haven’t you felt the darkness to this light? There is a whole set of problems that could bother you every day as a teenager. Your adolescence is not always like you or your elders expected it to be. There are times when you can’t explain yourself. What’s even worse is that, even if you try, you hear things like, “Oh come on! Everyone has problems, don’t be so weak!” or “You’re overreacting”Sometimes, even your peers can’t really get what you’re feeling. More often than not, every adult tends to make the teens realize that mood swings and impulsiveness are common along the way; they miss to tell the growing children that there’s much more to ponder when it comes to teenagers. Education about just the physical changes and development of secondary sexual characters is not all that teenagers should be given. As one begins to mature on the mental side into teenage, a teen mind processes enormous emotions and thoughts too; much more active than an adult brain could. With that said, let’s discuss some of the “teenage things” that all the adolescents would probably relate to.
1. FRIENDSHIP STUFF
No matter where you belong, the most crucial yet confusing responsibility could be choosing your friends and building your peer group. Who doesn’t like to have friends? We all do. Be it at school or in the neighborhood, people around you are the first proximity you’d probably reach out to befriend. As teens, you wish to socialize more; making new friends could be extremely exciting. Starting on a friendship isn’t that tough, is it? Everyone starts it off with ease, and in a short period that follows, you guys stay happy together and enjoy your sweet new friendship. Since hormonal changes are happening inside you, you tend to be aggressive or irritable sometimes, or usually, teens have a tendency to overthink past scenes and conversations so much that it leads to arguments, fights, and conflicts. Old friendships break, you make new friends again; weird disputes occur also, and the cycle goes on. Friends come and go. But, all this while, you realize that people change with time; everyone isn’t how they show themselves. Sometimes, you lose touch, or other times they ghost you. A battle of who will support who comes into play whenever two friends of a group fight. Peer groups break and become a part of the other. You slowly recognize what kind of people you want as friends, how do you wish to be treated by your friends, and what type of conversations and interests you want to have in common. Some people qualify for these traits, and some don’t; many people hurt you, and some heal. Emotional attachment with friends is expected in the adolescent phase, and friendships could be complicated. With time, you realize that not everyone around you is benevolent; your peer might use you for their benefit but will be pretentious in front of you.
2. FAMILY PRESSURE
As you head on towards your teenage, everyone around you wishes to guide you through everything. So much so that you might feel frustrated about how you don’t have your own say, but your family keeps on telling you what to do and what not to. For example, don’t be friends with XYZ, keep the distance from boys/girls, wear decent clothes, avoid lengthy phone calls, no need to attend get-togethers, don’t go out just with friends, be back at home before 6 pm, etc. are some of the typical restrictions put on the teens. During these years, there is a lot of pressure to study hard since these years play an important role in determining your career and affect your efficiency and the type of personality you grow up into. Families expect a lot from us, and sometimes, not fulfilling them leaves a child feeling guilty or low. Even though the teens should realize their responsibilities in this phase, they shall also be allowed to refresh themselves. Proper parenting is necessary. Ever heard of, “Overly strict parents produce the best liars.”? It’s absolutely right because, in the teenager phase, teens wish to explore their surroundings, gain new experiences, meet new people and enjoy life with enthusiastic opportunities. But when parents try to intervene and impose their decisions on them, even if it is for their children’s good, they feel frustrated and not understood by their parents, which ultimately influences them to lie to their parents. In this case, it’s essential to ensure a good parenting habit. Parents should try to explain themselves and try to understand their kid’s needs too. Both of them should come to a compromise so that none of them feels unheard or frustrated, or controlling.
As teens start their journey with many changes happening inside and outside the body, they wish to try out some relationships. They usually don’t know what exactly love is. However, still, attractions happen, crushes are formed, first heartbreaks happen, switch partners, enter into the same cycle multiple times and always never focus on understanding the true meaning of love. For those who wish to know more about true love and ever-lasting relationships, I have written a book titled “Scrutinizing Love,” wherein I’ve covered a wide range of aspects about true love taking inspiration from Psych2Go.net to put up words for the betterment of the society.
Usually, there is a mess that keeps forming inside the heads of teenagers due to many reasons such as physical or social insecurities, frustration, stress, lack of privacy, etc. In many cases, when the family or friends don’t give apt attention or freedom of opinion or decision, teens tend to either start growing up aggressive or as depressed due to the frustration bottling up.
If a teen faces any of the above problems – don’t let them be inside you – speak up, open up, share, ask for advice from people around you, from people whom you love. If your case is like mine, where you find no one you know who can help you, always remember that “therapy is for everyone” You should seek out professional health because severe depressions could turn aggressive or mentally weak adolescents suicidal, and that’s just not the most significant crime but also the greatest sin. You are one of your own kind and born to do something fabulous in the future. Go for counseling and become a person who is admired by everyone. Whenever you feel weak, just google search and read about Muniba Mazari – that’ll teach you to never give up hope. A mentally healthy, benevolent, sagacious, and young mind is necessary to better the world, and we can’t afford to lose any of them. So, please take good care of teens, try to understand, and work things out together. Let’s be the change we wish to see around us!