We have always heard love stories like that of Romeo and Juliet,
Cleopatra and Mark Antony or Heer and Ranjha but are you familiar
with the love story of Elio and Oliver or Bram Greenfeld and Simon
Spier? Maybe you are, maybe you are not. The major difference between
the couples mentioned prior to these latter ones is that we have been
very well aware about Romeo and Juliet’s love story for a really long
time but it’s just recently that we got to know about Elio and Oliver’s.
Elio and Oliver are a Gay couple who’s story has been written by Andre
Aciman in a novel form named ‘Call me by your name’. A lot of folks
out there might find it cringy, hearing about a Gay couples love story,
just seeing them being in love per se, despite the fact that we are living
in the 21
st century, which is my opinion is preposterous.
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer. Yes, over the past
decade, LGBTQ+ people have gained a lot of tolerance and acceptance
in India, especially in the big cities. But do you think tolerance is an apt
word for somebody as human as us?
People in the LGBTQ+ community are fighting for equal rights and
acceptance. They always have this fear of judgment and discrimination
which they might receive from their families specially in a country like
that of ours, India. In India ‘homosexuality’ is still considered somewhat
a shame. Discrimination still is there in a lot of parts of our country
where the LGBTQ+ people often face rejection from their own family
and are forced opposite-sex marriage. If this is not cruelty? I don’t know what is.
Our prejudice makes us believe that LGBTQ+ people are odd and very
different from the heterosexual group. Today, homosexuality is accepted
in India in a way that it never was accepted, but still it is a constant
struggle for those whose family consider being born as a homosexual is
This mindset of the people especially if they are of our family gives us a
feeling of insecurity which eventually makes us feel vulnerable to such
an extent that we think maybe not coming out as who we are to the
world is the right thing to do.
What we tend to forget is, they are as human as us. And being a human,
loving people of the same sex is not a sin. I too have had a greater
realization of this thing once I joined my college, which is a girls one. I
see Lesbian couples around me and being a heterosexual I never felt
weird or thought them having any less status than ours. Love does not
see religion, race, caste, sex or place of birth of a person. Love is love.
And the world would really be a greater place to live if every individual
realized this thing.
Love is pure, love is kind. If hetrosexual men and women have the right
to live in the society with dignity and pride, then so do the people of
LGBTQ+ community. We have to stop using God to justify our
prejudice. It’s not what our religion says, it’s about what humanity says.
We have to be a little upfront about who we really are. Openness may
not completely disarm prejudice but it’s a good place to start. Never
apologise for who you love. Never.